HulaGirlComingBack
She sold her house and is now living in a service flat, which means that she is still totally independent, but can get (medical) help and all sorts of support if she needs it. She is wearing an alarm watch. Her apartment has a kitchen and living room, 1 bedroom, 1 bathroom, and a storage room. There is a parking space for her car. Oh, and a balcony. She can walk to the cafeteria underground, because it is located in the block where she lives. The same goes for the parking space.

It is all new and spacious; she could take her furniture with her (except for the kitchen and bathroom of course). Construction works have not finished yet and a number of flats still have to be sold or put up for rent.

My mum lives in the first block on the second floor and will have a view on the trees once they are there and everything is finished. The first picture below is fake.  The second one is more realistic. All vital shops are within walking distance.

It looks like she is adjusting well. She continues to help me and my sister as much as she can (cleaning and ironing), but she no longer drives her car in the dark. The only health problem she has at the moment is glaucoma. She is 82.

I think it is good that she made this move now. She felt a bit lonely in her house. If she makes an effort and attends activities, she will more easily meet people of her own age.


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Pinkie
Those look real nice. The situation sounds ideal, especially if not very far from you? Is this in your city? I wish her and all of you well. Do you have Thanksgiving there? I guess not, LOL. I was surprised to discover they have that holiday in Canada.
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Nicky
I hope she'll be very happy there and make some good new friends. Loneliness is the worst.
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ali
It sounds like it was a good decision for her to move.  It's hard to leave your home but if you can move into a brand new housing unit then that is a heck of a nice way to move!  She's 82, huh?  How long has she been living alone?
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HulaGirlComingBack

My dad died in 1992 I think.  My mother never married again, but she had "boy friends". Three years after my father's death my mother sold the house where we grew up in and lived together (my parents, my sister and her then partner) and my mother had a new house built where the two of us lived until I bought my apartment three years ago.
My mother is an extremely active person. She does not have any particular interests. The only thing she wants to do is work (= cleaning)we. She helps me and my sister whenever she can. She has less work in her new surroundings and we wonder how she will adjust. So far everything is going well. Although she is of great support to us, she is not easy to live with.
If you ask me she has certain traits that lean towards obsessive compulsive personality disorder. It is not outspoken, but it is there.
I have more fights with her than my sister, who is more abiding.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive%E2%80%93compulsive_personality_disorder

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ali
Martine I think you should get your mother busy finding someone to dispose of your old furniture! 
Or better yet - if you have Craigslist - then put it on there for FREE.  Someone will take it.
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Pinkie
My mother was still youthful and active too like yours  at age 82 up to right before she got ovarian cancer, which made it even harder to lose her.  You're very lucky to still have yours, Martine. My father passed away late in 1991, but my mother never had any boyfriends after that. She didn't want any. Not that she had been real lovey dovey and romantic towards my father, she wasn't, not for a very long time.  I felt very sorry for him about that and wished he'd been granted a lot more affection from her. She could be rather fierce, off and on, but no matter what, it was tremendously hard to lose her and we miss her deeply. There's a big hole in our lives from both of them being gone. The holidays make most people miss their departed loved ones more.
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HulaGirlComingBack
My mother is living near Bruges now, in the area where my sister lives. We are very lucky indeed that she is still doing well.
We do not have Thanksgiving and I got rid of the furniture - but that is another story.
The issues that she had in her house are now beginning to pop up again. She says that she feels lonely. I feel it is related to the kind of person she is. She is not open (enough) to new experiences.
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ali
Your job is not to keep your mother entertained or even to listen to her complain about it.  That is just adding to your stress.  
Buy her a few good bottles of brandy or a case of beer and find her a drinking buddy to invite over.  Then they can commiserate together about their loneliness.
Walk away, Martine.  When she starts to complain just leave.

My mother died in 2006 and these things are easy for me to say because I'm not you and my mother was not lonely.  In fact it was the other way around.  My parents already had the perfect daughter - and then I came along and was clearly a disappointment.  She didn't want to EVER spend any time with me.  She is not missed by me - except sometimes I find myself thinking I should call Mom and tell her .... Then I remember she died a few years ago.  She was age 78.  

I miss my "perfect" sister so much it hurts.  She knew how my parents were about her being "the perfect one" and it never put a wedge between us.  In fact she was so good to me.  When she got the news that she had ALS she said the first thing she thought about was me.  I leaned on her for guidance and friendship and she knew I would have a tough time when she was gone.  I have been so sad since she died. But I don't miss my mother.  

Well I got sidetracked there.  I mean what I said about your mother.  As long as she has you she will not find a new friend.  
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HulaGirlComingBack
My mother does not drink, Ali! LOL. My sister and I will not be able to help my mother. No matter what we do she will always be the prisoner of her own rigid self. She does not acknowledge that the problem lies in who she is.

I am sorry that you miss your sister so much and I understand that people do not always miss the people they are supposed to miss.
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ali
Your mother should drink, Martine.  I am not one to admire drinking but I think at her age it might me the magic pill!
I don't drink - but when I used to I liked Bailey's Irish Cream.  Even a non-drinker would enjoy that! 
https://www.baileys.com/en-us/recipes.html
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