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michele

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Hi Hag,

Thanks for the kind words. I will try to pop in, as I did miss you guys.

How old is your dad, Hag? Have you made arrangements for when he'll need greater care? 

From what I've seen of Dementia, I suppose it depends on the state of mind of the patient as to what's harder - family or loved one. You're right in that they don't know that they've got an altered reality, and often times it's very Twilight Zone-y there. But my dad is at the end stages (so the Dr. tells me) and not responding much. I don't know what's going on inside his head.

Glad to hear about the girl. You'll be calling her that when she's 50, lol. Good for her in her career. The tattoo, well, do you at least like the boyfriend? I hope so.

I was in and out when you were dieting but then was away for a long time. You are a great inspiration to others. 

We haven't been travelling so much, lately, but looking at your pics may get me going. I shall have a look at your pics, and send you a PM as well.



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Can't wait till I get a chance to read Michele's update on her life, in its entirety, looks like I might get bumped off again soon but Chele I'm thrilled you popped up again, had been thinking about you. They're supposed to let us stay here 'til 11 p.m. tonite but don't know if they will. To use their free Wifi
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Darn the luck I just lost a lot of my writing here to you, it was about my sympathies for what you're going through with your Dad and feeling he's having a peaceful passage through and over, and had a wonderful long life full of success and love, a lot of that thanks to you and your family. It's very touching how you describe going to his care home to visit him. I'd been wondering what you've been up to and it seems like several years since we heard anything. I always liked the person you were (are) here--you gave me such a good impression of Canadians (and now Justin Trudeau is, LOL, what a hottie) and your vast land. Everyone I ever chatted with online from Canada was very nice. Like everybody you would be in different moods when you popped up and I never found yours off-putting at all. Seems like some peeps take their miseries out on others, don't understand how or why that makes them feel better. I don't blame others for various family tragedies. Have suffered quite a few of those. I don't want to be a Debbie Downer and describe them again, here.  And try to drum up a pity party. Nothing bad hanging over me right now but a hassle in having to switch my car insurance over, hope that goes smoothly and I can find the title. And having to pay a lot of taxes first of January. Our fridge has conked out, so we have to replace it. Looks like you have to really shell out for one to last. Was invited to a big party in October and decided to go. I had a nice time at a recent town picnic, the music was cool 'cause black residents were in charge, our Mayor happens to be black and I had a fun chat w/ him and he said I could go to him for advice when needed. I told him the coolest I ever felt was when I and some white friends went to some black nightclubs and danced to the best music I'd ever heard and everybody was chill and accepted us there without mentioning we were white, and all, the only white ones there. 
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"more sinned against than sinning"--shall be on my tombstone

"Transpersonal psychology--transcend the self, to abolish and avoid pain...what is the self, anyway?"--Pinkie
"Queen of Pain, I'll Always be Queen of Pain" (laughs)with apologies to Sting
"Yes it's over now, drink your big black cow, and get outa here"--Steely Dan
"I'm just a girl, they think I'm some kind of freak"--Gwen Stefani
"You can beat us with wires, you can beat us with chains;
You can make all your rules but you can't outrun the history train...I seen a glorious day"--Paul Simon
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  I find myself living with and helping my disabled sister, and she helps me with the bills and in general, we're a team. She's high maintenance and I try to keep her happy. I'm grateful to be in our childhood home surrounded by memories of my parents and pictures of them. I finally have a place of my own after being out on the road in a long journey all over experiencing different places since I was 18. Finally have settled down.  I loved hearing about your girls. Reminds me of really being into my three nieces and seeing what paths they take in life--that's the main thing I'm living for, in a way.  They're all like Super Girl or Wonder Woman in that they make excellent grades all the time and haven't been in any trouble (knock on wood) to speak of, and they're, well, just seem almost perfect to me (don't know where they got all their smarts from), but I know peeps don't like to hear a lot of bragging, LOL.  It can get obnoxious. It's just that it feels good when things go right and one likes to dwell on it. I pray my ass off for them (I still cuss a lot though especially nowadays, curse more than I ever did before). And pray avidly for other things. You have to take action, too, though. Not just pray. More later! Hope for more updates and info from you, and everybody !
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"more sinned against than sinning"--shall be on my tombstone

"Transpersonal psychology--transcend the self, to abolish and avoid pain...what is the self, anyway?"--Pinkie
"Queen of Pain, I'll Always be Queen of Pain" (laughs)with apologies to Sting
"Yes it's over now, drink your big black cow, and get outa here"--Steely Dan
"I'm just a girl, they think I'm some kind of freak"--Gwen Stefani
"You can beat us with wires, you can beat us with chains;
You can make all your rules but you can't outrun the history train...I seen a glorious day"--Paul Simon
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Hi Susie Q,,

It’s so great to reconnect with you as well. You’re so sweet, Susie, with a big heart. I feel that life is a journey of ups and downs, and I guess since my mom died, I’ve become more spiritual. So I try to remember the journey when it comes to my dad. I’ve never been around the elderly to this extent, before, and I’ve learned so much from these very old, wise souls. The average age there is 94, and it’s terrible when one passes, but the rewards of knowing them outweigh the sadness. Do you still work as a caregiver? I think that you did, before. 

What I love about the board is that everyone comes from different places, and yet on the board we are all just hanging out like we are in the same place, with no countries or boarders (like Imagine). What I don’t love is, like you said, it can get nasty, cliquey, addictive, and all the rest. I guess it just depends on how much you’re into these things.

Whenever we’ve been to the States, the people have all been wonderful, friendly, and very welcoming. So it works both ways. Where do you live, Susie? I thought it was the South? I thought South Carolina, or Virginia? We took the kids to Virginia Beach, years ago, when they were little. Had so much fun. We rented a cottage by the ocean, and it was the first time they’d ever swam in an ocean. I insisted they wear life jackets (paranoid mom) and we all had so much fun. Now my girls are in their twenties, but it seems like only yesterday.

I remember you used to talk about your lovey nieces – I thought you had two nieces, but you have three. Glad to hear they’re doing so well. It sounds like they have a lot of love surrounding them. J  What a wonderful aunt you are!

I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had issues in your life, and I hope things are more settled for you, now. As far as fridges go, I don’t think they make things like they used to--- nothing lasts anymore. Before, things would last 20 years (like my parent’s stuff) but not now.

It’s wonderful that you and your sister are close. My brother and I have become much closer now, too. We are the only two who share the memories of our childhood and parents. Only siblings can really get the nuances and intricacies of their family, and some things are impossible to describe. I’ll say to Paul (my brother) oh – remember when . . . it’s wonderful. He’s all I have left of my parents, now. Makes me so glad my girls are close. 

It’s good to hear that you’ve settled down, though.

Anyway, great to reconnect. I’ll try to be around here, more. Things have settled down in my life, for now, anyway. The dr said to be prepared re my dad, but I’ve already lost him in a way, so I just try to take it one day at a time, and stay strong for him.

Take care, Miss Susie Q!
(I think of that CCR song, great song!)

 

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